So, I would have continued writing about women today, but my philosophy teacher actually talked about something more interesting: Happiness. We've all heard our grandparents or someone wishing they could have lived a happy life or something of the sort, but what is it really? How do we achieve it? What does it mean to us? It just made me really think about it and I've been thinking about it ever since class.
First off, we all know that happiness is like this feeling that makes us feel really good, but the bigger question is how do we achieve it? To me, it depends on what type of happiness you're going for. There are different types of happiness. There's the short term happiness that you feel for achieving something from acing a test, doing great in a speech, and things like that. Then, there's the whole "I just had some good sex" happiness. This would probably fall under the short term list, but I think the happiness after having sex lasts a little longer than like a few hours compared to everything else under the short term list. There's that random happiness you get by having a good day where everything just seems to be going your way. Can't forget the happiness you get when see a really good friend or relative you've been dying to see. Maybe the happiness from being relieved from something you hate would fall under this as well. Who can forget the happiness when you're with a loved one? Oh yeah, there's that happiness you feel when you start reminiscing about the good times you had. Finally, there's the happiness you feel when, at an old age, you realize that you've lived life the way you wanted and achieved what you wanted to while watching your kids, possibly grandchildren, while hugging or holding your husband or wife. For you women, there's always that happiness of satisfaction of fulfilling what your body desires when you're on your period or a shopping spree...whichever suits your mood. Silly me. I almost forgot the drunk happiness although I'd consider it something I like to call "false-happiness".
Now, with short term happiness, it's fairly achieve. After all, all one would need to do is get something they really wanted or achieve something they tried really hard for. In general, this short term happiness usually lasts for mere moments and is easily cut short by bad news. This feeling is nice, but so short lived that is usually just a brief moment unless it was a major accomplishment. Most of the time, people achieve this moment of happiness and enjoy it while they can. But since it's so short lived, it's easily overlooked and forgotten.
We all know the "I just had good sex" look that comes with the happiness. Both men and women do it: The whole can't-help-but-smile-after-a-good-session-of-sex look. Yeah, you all know what I'm talking about. If you don't, then you will know in due time. Try and hide it as much as you want, but once you've had a good or much needed session of sex, you can't help but show it. It just shows somehow even if you aren't smiling. I would go more in-depth with this, but sex isn't really my area per se. Anyways, from what I've read, it's got to do with chemicals, endorphins I believe, being released during sex that cause this type of happiness. Now, this happiness usually lasts for a good while, but it can also be cut short by bad news just like any other happiness.
We've all had a day, where everything goes or starts off so right that we can't help but smile or feel good: The weather is perfect, everything goes the way you want it too, and you just can't help but just appreciate the day. It usually lasts the whole day and you just can't explain it. It's like you've reached paradise or something. It's, without a doubt, one of the best feelings in the world. If anything, this is probably what most people try to achieve or consider happiness.
There's that happiness when you run into a relative or a good friend of yours after you haven't seen them in a while. Your whole face just lights up with a smile, and you just can't help but feel happy. Sometimes you two just start chatting and then one thing leads to another. The next thing you know, the days over. Sometimes this feeling carries on through out the day. Afterwards, you can't help but think about them.
Personally, I don't think there would be anything more satisfying than being an old man seen my children and grandchildren all grown up and having fun over a barbecue. I think it would be a mixture of happiness and satisfaction: Happiness from seeing my family and satisfaction at seeing them having fun. If anything, this is what we all hope to achieve for our happiness. This is what we think happiness should be: Having a good family, with a nice house, and our children doing well. It gives us a sense of us having accomplished something and makes us feel good knowing that our children will be fine.
I know that the title says that I'm taking a break from women, but I just couldn't leave them out. Women, I know you all know how good it feels to satisfy that craving of your during that time of the month. You want something so bad, and you just crave and crave it. When you finally get what you've been craving, you feel a sense of satisfaction and slight happiness that you've finally slayed that craving that's been driving you mad. Unfortunately, from what I've seen, unhappiness usually follows right after since it only takes like one bite to satisfy that craving and then you don't want anymore. I know that I, as a man, probably have no sense of how satisfying it truly can be, but I get the gist of it.
Of course there's the ever popular method of just drinking alcohol to achieve a state of happiness. Now, most of you might disagree, but I don't consider this true happiness. Yeah, I admit that it's a way of feeling better. There's no doubts about that. After all, one usually has fun and goes out when they drink. All of your problems are usually forgotten...until the next day of course. I feel that since you're "forcing" yourself into this state, it isn't a natural happiness. Instead, it's a forced one where you detach yourself from world around you to make yourself feel better.
I feel that happiness is something that comes naturally. You can't force it or try to reach it otherwise you'll be disappointed. I mean, yeah you can reach it in a sense of you accomplishing something, but you feel that you finally got something out of the way more often than not when you accomplish something. Honestly, if we were happy everyday, we would be unhappy because everything would just be so boring and redundant. We need that bit of unhappiness to feel happy. It's like not knowing how satisfying food really is when you've been starved or when you've been smothered by one's love that you long to feel unloved just to know that everything is real. We need to have something taken away from us for us to appreciate what we have. Happiness is one of those things. There cannot be no death without life just like there cannot be day without night or men without women. You need to be sad to be happy. Just be sure not to be too sad because happiness can only bring one up so high.
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